"Hello, my name is Gloria. What pronoun are you?" I am at a clothing swap in support of a student lead
campaign to promote awareness of trans gender issues. As a writer I am keenly aware of how words betray our values
but I can only imagine the grief that pronouns cause those individuals
struggling with a gender obsessed society. Frankly, I welcome alternatives to the black and white,
binary coding of male and female.
I am particularly fond of the term "gender fluid" which to me
seems so much more accurate at describing the rich shadowing of real
life. The directness I am
encouraged to use at the clothing swap is downright refreshing. It is a relief
to those of us who want to show support and respect. I find myself monitoring my own language use and cringe at
the regularity of my own gender default setting. If I'm any indication, changing society's habits, even among
the well intentioned is going to be difficult.
I applaud the Trans Needs Committee at Memorial University
for the clothing swap. It was a
supportive environment to score some clothing (no questioning looks from sales
staff), share perspectives and in my case learn. It was the right blend of activism and education. It appealed to my sense of community
building and politics of inclusion. The beauty of events like the clothing swap
is that unlike protests and rallies, this is a relaxed happening that
encourages discussion.
Trans Pride Flag |
During the week there were more politically focused events
but they were not adversarial in nature.
There was a signing of a charter of rights at City Hall in St. John's
and the pink, blue and white flag was flown in recognition of the annual week
of celebration and education of the lives of the trans community, which occurs
usually around November 20th.
The wrap up for the week was a full night of entertainment
followed by a social at the Rocket Room.
Under the stage name of Ritual Frames, Daze (pronounced Daisy)
Jefferies, mesmerized the audience with her particular brand of experimental,
electronic music. It was
environment-rich, evocative and told her very personal story of maturing from a
boy in rural Newfoundland to a transgender woman in love, loss and acceptance. I have followed electronic music for
decades and I wager Daze is a talent to watch and eagerly look forward to her
forthcoming album Diaspora Tale, which will be released in 2015.
The evening also featured Dash and Noelle in their
scintillating light and lasers show and the premiere of the Trans Awareness
Documentary "Fighting the Cistem: Trans Narratives" produced by
Memorial University's Social Work Faculty. The short film was a disarmingly
unadorned series of interviews with local trans youth and leaders talking about
the challenges of dealing with family, the medical system, education and
workplace. Sadly, the trans
community is no stranger to discrimination and violence inside and outside the
home. We all need to keep in mind
that beneath a bewildering and evolving list of labels is a beating, human
heart.